Love the One You’re With; Until You Find Something Better

Jocelyn Giangrand            Building Confidence, Unlocking Potential

Jocelyn Giangrand Building Confidence, Unlocking Potential

Once a client of mine was in a tough situation.  She was frustrated because her team and boss had failed to embrace her.  She felt like an outsider.  And when she started to withdraw from them as well, her boss called her out and blamed her for not being a team player.

She was also frustrated because her full potential wasn’t being utilized and her boss started leaving her off important projects. After missing out on developmental opportunities and exposure, it didn’t take long to decide that it was time to leave.  She desperately wanted off the team and her negative feelings were starting to show.

Knowing that her reputation was important and she didn’t want to blow it, she came to me for advice.  My advice to her, after helping her assess the pros and cons of her situation , was to plan the perfect exit strategy.

The strategic goal: Exit with a bag full of transitional skills, information, and knowledge.

If you are miserable or looking for something new, part of your exit strategy should be to gain as much as you can from your current position before moving on.  Learn to love the one you’re with until you find something better. How?… Follow the following 5 steps:

(before implementing these steps,  first assess the pros and cons of  your situation.  If there are more pros than cons, you may want to stick it out and change your perspective).

5 Steps to Implement Before You Leave Your Current Job

Step 1.

Determine where you want to go next.

Step 2.

Outline what skills, experience, knowledge, networks, materials, etc. you will need to be competitive for the next position.

Step 3.

Identify what skills etc., you may be able to obtain from your current position and map out a plan to get them while you are there.

If you plan on starting a business, try to determine what skills you will need to launch that passion and see if you could get them from your current job.

Step 4.

Plan how to maintain a decent relationship with your current boss for a future reference.  If you don’t get along, then find out who is the boss’s pet and befriend them.

Step 5.

Start a portfolio and begin making copies of your accomplishments, reports, products, photos, articles, etc.

Planning an exit strategy puts you in the driver’s seat.  Now, you are determining what you are going to get out of the partnership.

I find that when women implement this strategy effectively, taking control makes them feel more confident.  Knowing they are gaining from their current experience brings a new positive perspective on their current situation; making it easier to go to work.

Some even stay longer than they thought they would, making sure they fill their arsenal before moving on.  Others  find that once they realize all of the positive things their current position does for them, such as pay the bills, flexibility, great benefits, practical resources, access to information, exposure to networks, etc. they start to appreciate their situation more.

Learning to love the one you’re with, until you move on, could be a strategy to make an unbearable situation, bearable.  If you are leaving anyway, you may as well make the most of it.  Who knows, you may find out that your situation is better than you thought.

What do you think?  Share your thoughts and experiences.

© Jocelyn Giangrande and Sisters Keeping it Real, 2009. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s author  is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Jocelyn Giangrande and Sisters Keeping it Real with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

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About Jocelyn Giangrande

Jocelyn's passion is helping women build the confidence to unlock their full potential. A Career strategist, professional coach and keynote speaker, Jocelyn helps professional women get their careers on track, communicate with confidence and find their passions. Her unique approach has helped hundreds of professional women leverage their talents to reach their professional goals.
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